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When we find ourselves making negative judgments about the worth of another human being, it can be a signal that there is something unsettled in ourselves that needs attention.

In this situation, we will usually find that we have an unmet need for love, attention and safety.

Movements towards harming another person, unconscious or purposeful, generally come from our own unmet needs. It can be as simple as not having enough food to eat,  or as complex as never having been validated as a person of worth.

Both situations involve unmet needs, so it is vitally important to know what our real needs are and to make sure these needs are met in a safe and reasonable way that helps not only ourselves but others.

Just what does a human being need to survive and prosper in all the ways we can? You may have heard of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. It is an easy to understand explanation of how human needs are realated to each other.

If an essential human need is omitted from someone’s life—confusion, difficulty and pain can result.

When we judge another person with harshness or cruelty, we do so by holding that judgment within ourselves physically, within our body and brain. The fundamental harm is done to us and not the other person.

When a harsh judgment comes from us. Our body, our brain, our physiology and neurotransmitters create and hold that judgment toward another.

The instant we create harsh judgment toward another, we become the target of our own disruptive thoughts and feeling. When feeling ill will towards another, we cultivate physical discord in ourselves. We become the person injured, the person who actually suffers.

The location and effect of a negative judgment toward another person has little or no affect on that person but wrecks havoc in us… physically, mentally and emotionally; it tears us down. It compromises our integrity: the physical integrity of a body that works well, the mental integrity of a mind that works with clearly, and the emotional integrity of feeling good about life and who we are.

It is important and necessary to make decisions about other people regarding issues of safety or whether we want them in our lives. We may meet someone we judge to be dangerous and not want them in our lives, or we may know someone who is clearly fine and decent who just does not fit into our lives… that is a question of compatibility, not harsh judgment.

Judgment that condemns and criticises the quality of another person leads to misunderstandings and inaccurate conclusions. Judging the progress or value of another human being leads to false conclusions about reality itself, the person we are judging and ourselves.

The only judgment or opinion we need to have is that it’s a good idea to practice love… after that, making the decision to love and then practicing love will usually satisfy the underlying lack that causes us to criticise. 

You can’t judge yourself or others by state of health, happiness or freedom. You can’t judge an individual by where they seem to be as a success or failure, and this applies first to ourselves. In judging the quality or worth of another  we only further our own blindness. We only add to the confusion about how we can best get our need for love met.

 Judging the value or worth of another person lead to false conclusions, always; because the real quality of any and every person is the pure and perfect quality of their soul.

The expression of a person’s life, however, may be quite different. But the perfect soul of everyone can be seen clearly, if we get past the judgments and beliefs we have of our own lack of quality. We judge others as we experience ourselves and life. When we experience the gold of our soul, clearly, it is easy to see the perfection of another person. When we love ourselves as a constant state of being; it is easy to love another regardless of what they are doing or what they have done.

 Judgment is the sound of death.

While a pure and honest perception of life brings only joy and understanding, we cut our spirit short when harshly judging others or ourselves.

The only honest thing there ever is to do is to practice love and exhibit respect.

In the heart of every man, woman and child is the expectation of a perfect world—of perfect parents, perfect friends and even perfect strangers. This expectation of a good and fair world is instinct. This expectation is a reflection of who we are deep inside, of what the Creation really could and should be. What we all find is something different.

At a young age, as we begin to experience difficult events; we sense something is not quite right with the world or ourselves. But we try to put that thought in the back of our heads… deciding that the world and ourselves my work the way we want, if we do certain things right.

We do our best to seek something better than what we have, because what we have is not so great: Calamity,  hunger,  pain, and death—who would or should want that? Who would think that is the way things are supposed to be? Few.

The demands of Creation, as we have created it, are not so wonderful. But these harsh demands are the consequences of misusing our abilities and resources over time.

Pain and disaster are the Creation’s efforts to right itself. When we near a flame, our body tells us, through pain, that we are too close. Flame may be good for cooking, but it’s not for cooking ourselves. Fairly simple

But Creation itself responds over time to what we do, Creation responds by giving back to us what we have done, doing this slowly over time.

There are moments, periods and even lifetimes of pleasure and bliss. But no matter how well our lives go, we are all inexorably moving toward the debilitating effects of aging and death. If there were no wars, things still would be tough, less challenging for many, but life would still be difficult; and the essential flaw of disease, accident and death would remain.

As we eliminate suffering, as we desire something better—the underlying reality of a perfect Creation is allowed to emerge of its own volition. The more suffering that we eliminate by our own free will—the more the perfect and benevolent qualities of Creation are allowed to emerge. We do not have to create the perfectionof ourselves or the world we live in; it’s already there as the reality behind our harsh and difficult world.

Eventually, as we and humanity have reached a critical mass of change for the better, of positive thought, emotions and actions… there becomes a self-propelled push or chain reaction of positive events that can change things quickly. But we get to this place by incremental and often imperceptible change brought about by our group behavior of love, compassion and positive action.

The challenge or problem in getting to a place of Perfect Wisdom and Perfect Love… is that, over eons of time, we and the world we live in have physically evolved away from the original design, literally.

Our physical design as humans, our anatomy, and the physics of the world we live in, have evolved to represent the misuse and harm we have been doing to each other and the world over time, a long long time.

Our physical bodies and the physics of the world we live in have evolved to represent our “dog eats dog” behavior. So guess what… it’s hard to change. But it is harder to remain in a world and in bodies that can feel such pain.

We can change it all—rerpair the damage to Creation and ourselves. We have to; we’re the only ones with the power and ability to do the repair.

Calamity, accident and harm have taken over the template that creates our world. But underneath all the suffering is the perfect reality or original plan.

We can all have this plan in our lives right now, if we want it! This plan is the original template of our bodies and the world we live in. But this perfect life, a life of continual miracle, cannot happen if we don’t want it! This is the first step—wanting it, desiring it.

The desire to have it, the perfect life—the perfect mind, body and world—is the first requirement for making it happen. We live in a Universe that responds to our demands, ill or good, over time. That’s how we got here, and that’s how we get out of this difficult situation.

The Creation has to design itself in response to our behavior, thoughts and emotions. The Creation has no choice; it is like a “Genie in a bottle.”

We are the only ones with choice. The Creation has no choice but to become as we behave, to give to us what we have made and more of it, until we have stopped the behaviors that are causing and creating a world of harm.

We are the creators of our bodies, minds and emotions. We create the surface of Creation. We do not create the platform upon which life takes place; we are that platform. We have crafted, over eons of time, the human body as it is today and the Universe we appear to live in.

We can create our way out of the difficult aspects of this creation; but it takes a group effort because group behavior, acting contrary to the design of Creation, is how we came to our present situation of calamity, harm and death.

Singular heroics will not make this happen. This has to be a project that includes all of us. We cannot move forward until a vast majority of us is convinced this is the way to go. It boils down to a choice between suffering and pain, nothing more. A world of pain, or a world of pleasure—it’s our choice. What do you want?

The Creation may have been given to us, as in Eden, but we are the one’s who have shaped it slowly and surely, over millenniums, into the image and seeming reality that we have now. What we think is permanent or structure, is changeable, but the underlying reality that allows or gives forth as a Genie in a Bottle is permanent and unchangeable, beyond time and space, life and death. That underlying reality is what  Creation and the highest hopes and dreams of humanity are ever trying to create.

If a form of creation does not reflect the underlying reality or truth of the Creation, than form is by nature eccentric and wrongly created, such a creation within Creation does not last long and collapses into death. The Creation can sustain, only briefly, what does not reflect its underlying reality or design. The law that sustains form created by humanity, can only do so briefly if the created thing does not reflect underlying law.

The practice of harmful behaviors over eons of time crafted our present day “laws of physics” that seem so indelible, when in fact they are in a constant state of flux, responding to our actions.

The underlying laws that give rise to present day appearances, or mechanics, are unchangeable because WE are the underlying laws. And our true being, who we really are, does not change. It is permanent, both ourselves and “the law.”

We are permanent with no beginning or end. We are beyond the effects of time and space; yet who we are comprises time and space.

The tendency of creation is to “want” to express this ineffable truth in physical form. This is the reason we are born. We have decided to create the world of God, this Complete Perfection, as who we are in physical form.

As we act against the tendency of Our Physical Creation to express in perfection, suffering is born.

Our practice of harmful behaviors, over eons, created a world where we must prey upon each other, f laura and fauna, to live. This misuse, over time, has created the condition where our bodies grow old and die.

Aging and death of species happens because Creation has been misinformed, by us, and is creating wrongly at the level of species. At a deeper level, at a Quantum Mechanical level, Creation is behaving just fine.

There is no requirement that we ever die at all! There is no requirement that we behave badly to survive.

Beneath the harsh veneer of reality and our present day “dog eats dog” world, lay deeper law or the true reality of who we and our universe are. We can discover this reality in our own personal lives immediately, by our own actions, choices and decisions—in how we practice life.

Physicists are discovering this reality, the underlying perfect world, in high energy physics right now. But this physics is at the beginning point of rediscovery; nothing has been proved or discovered in physics yet that translates to proof of any kind, as is often claimed in popular media.

What we have in Science today is simply philosophical commentary by certain scientists as they look at equations and the results of experiments in the area of Quantum Physics. Quantum Physics has, in fact, nothing to say at all. Quantum physics can’t speak English; it speaks only in the language of mathematical equations. You can talk about the meaning of Quantum Physics to you personally, if you understand it; but there is no “meaning” to mathematical equations, only function. Meaning is the creation of human beings and the attribution of such is subject to our common human flaws.

On a personal basis, we are able to be at this Perfect Place, this Nirvana Reality, right now. So why not be there now? Why not be at this place of perfect understanding and peace right now?

We all can be there, in Perfection, by wanting and practicing our Original Self and allowing the Original Design of the Universe to express through who we are, as who we are. We can do this by the diligent practice of pure compassionate love, and nothing else. Why not do that now?

You can only find Pure and Consistent Love through the center of You. The “narrow door” to heaven through which we all must pass is through the center of our soul. We must pass into this true and accurate reality of ourselves if we are to have a life of heaven, here and now.

All of us can have a life of miracles, on a continuing basis, if they we do one simple thing: love with all our heart, all our mind and all our soul… most of the time. Is this easy? No it ain’t. Not easy at all.

At the beginning, a practice of Quantum Love this continuous and strong is not so easy for anyone. However, compassionate Quantum Love—the kind of love that comes from the strength of our soul, infinite and unending in nature—can become an everyday reality if practiced with regularity, as impossible or unlikely as this may seem.

All real miracles come from this base: the active, constant and continued practice of love. This is the message and story of every sage throughout history and time, and this too can be the story of us all if we want it to be!

But there’s a catch: we and the world we live in don’t seem well designed for this to happen—love of this magnitude and love with this regularity and constant presence. And why is that? And how can we overcome this? Stay tuned… the answer’s in the next blog!

Miracles are built on a foundation of personal effort, focused desire and the practice of asking. Luck is a different matter–with few solid and enduring conditions occurring by luck.

Not so exciting is it… this description of miracles!? But this is how anything good is created in the world. Destruction can happen quickly and easily, but to build something enduring like a life of miracles—takes time, work and focus.

What about the sudden intervention, or life changing events that happen in a flash, something asked for or something freely given to us my life, without asking or in seeming response to our requests… it happens, but rarely and for good reason: How would we ever discover who we really are, what our personal powers and capabilities were, if our wants were achieved with the wave of a magic wand?

Eventually we can all have a life of miracles, but we have to know who we are with depth and certainty. We have to understand the world we live in and how we got to the place we are.

You may ask for something for 20 years and never get it, but asking builds up. If you persistently seek what you want, and do the work around getting it… miracles happen.