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You Create Your Life

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Mar 162011

We all face the same dilema:

We have thought about death, disease and suffering—and have accepted these situations as inevitable, as a part of life—when this is not the case.

The only “fact of life” is that we can change our lives, and the world. We create our life every day, for better or worse—by our thoughts, actions and beliefs. We change the natural laws of creation by who we are and how we act.

The things that we think, believe and accept—impact the world and our lives. We design and make the world by how we behave.

As we understand we are creating the world, we can look at our beliefs, feeling and thoughts… and see how they add up? We may ask: where are we taking ourselves? Where are we taking the world?

Are we building, mending and making good friends? Do we resolve the problems of previous generations, or continue the same mistakes in a different style?

How are you creating the world for yourself and others? What instructions are you giving to life?

If our actions return to us in the manner we behave, what will come to us? What can we expect? If our thoughts and feelings take place in our bodies and brains, how are we treating ourselves?

Take control. You create your life. You decide what you will have, what you receive from life?

If there is something you don’t like, look to yourself for the change you want!

You are in control, and you create your life.

The Opportunity of Illness

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Mar 042011

Illness sometimes stops our world. While ill, we have opportunity. We can stay in our disease or use it as an opportunity to discover our deep and perfect selves, the perfection in the world.

Illness is frightening, for good cause. We suffer, are in pain and may die? Illness puts a stop to our world as we know it.

We can deny our difficult condition, or work with our problem and learn.

The best lesson from illness is to see how valuable, perfect and powerful our life really is, to see we have ability and belief deeper than we may have imagined.

In good health we can live with abandon, not thinking about the value of life; but in illness we have an opportunity to see a deeper quality and purpose in living that carries to all of our life.

In illness, we may find we are more powerful and perfect than we ever knew?

The Way Out of Suffering

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Mar 022011

The way out of suffering is a spiritual path—a path that returns us to our origin.

We may question our pain, thinking we did not cause it, that the situation is not our fault? This may be true, but if we want release from pain, no matter how it began, it is our responsibility.

It is our problem and requires we take action. Our intent will be the gateway to relief.

Though our spirit may seem failing and uneasy, this same spirit will take us out of pain.

We must ask for help and share our suffering. This dissipates our pain and unifies our spirit with the world.

The world does not want us to suffer; it is not our design to be in pain. When we are at peace, and in agreement with life, suffering falls away. As we sense our perfect core and the love of life, healing takes place…

As we know we are made of love, we conform to our design of health. As we know and see our spirit in strength, our suffering will ease.

Healing may happen quickly, but also may take time. It may take time to heal a difficult situation? It is important, however, that we begin.

As we suffer, we may get lost and confused. And who among us has not suffered or been mistaken to some degree? We all have suffered; suffering affects our thoughts and will. Let us be humble and seek our core of love, and know the love of the world.

In love, all things recover—the world, our life and health. In love, there is no accident.

The way out of suffering comes by persistent effort, taking action toward our core of love.

Personal Growth and Relationships: Getting the Love You Want

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Oct 022010

This is an article about personal growth and relationships, both platonic and romantic: You will learn how to get more of the love you want, while accepting more of the love you already have.

“Love is Divine, and so are we.”

“By letting others love us, we let them have the gift of love. Let others love you.

“Love is union. Love is giving and receiving at the same time—as we give we receive. Let others have the gift of love, by letting them love you now!

“You are important, most important! Everyone is important in the design of life. The design of life is beautiful; you get to peek at it every time you are involved in love.”

From “Lessons in Love,” pp 225-226

Get the Love You Want with a New Approach:

When we think of love, and its value in Personal Development, we often think about how WE can be more loving, compassionate and kind? How about a different approach, something new?

To Improve the Love in Your Life Today, Try this:

Be selfish, for a change.
Think about YOURSELF—what you need and want?
Understand “the norm of reciprocity”: the secret to great relationships.
Place more people in your life who love you.
Let the people, already in your life, love you more.
Learn the 5 Steps for getting the love you want.

How to Find People Who Love You:

Find people who love you, people who smile at the sight of you. They exist. They are out in the world, similar to you and waiting for someone to love. The need to love is as great as the need to be loved; they are inseparable. Look for someone who loves you, someone YOU love too.

Do you have people in your life who like you, people who like who you are and know you well? Do you like your friends? Maybe, maybe not? Few friends are perfect, and few relationships are ideal. But we can have in mind the type of person and friend we want.

We need an ideal of our own to guide our efforts as we make attractions and bring new friends into our life. Think about yourself for a change, about who you are and what you want? Find someone who loves you and likes you. Find someone you also like.

The Secret to Great Relationships: “The Norm of Reciprocity”

The “norm” of reciprocity… WOW, what’s that? Is it the guy in the bar at “Cheers”? Well… we all liked Norm, but the norm of reciprocity refers to a relationship where two people are giving equally to each other. When I give something to you, you give me something in return. It can be a kind word, a hug or a smile. A REAL relationship has two people giving equally over time.

A business relationship works the same as friendship or love. “What, that sounds awful”! Well, think about it? In a business relationship, I give you something, and you give me something back—it’s called commerce. In a love relationship, I give you my love and attention—you give me love and attention. The presence of reciprocity is how you know you are in a relationship.

How does that sound? What are your relationships like? Are you getting what you give? Is it love? Maybe, maybe not? Think about it? Are you getting what you give? Do you WANT something back?

Come out from Hiding, and Accept the Love You Have:

It is sometimes easy to hide in a relationship where the other person does NOT give back to you. There is no threat; things are easy to predict. But it’s not equal. Of course there are times, in the best of relationships, where things are not equal: you have to sacrifice, that’s life. We all have tough times where we are not as able to give as we would like. But that’s not what I am talking about.

Are you hiding in a relationship where you are the only one giving?
Is there something more you need and want?

How to Get More Love, when You Want It:

To fix a relationship you may need to give the situation a chance, telling your friend or partner what you want. Be patient. Work at changing things first. See what happens? Or get out of the relationship. It is up to you?

Sometimes we hide in situation where we are the ones giving most. This avoids intimacy. We can hide from our insecurities and wounds, and feel protected. But true intimacy cannot happen, and satisfaction may be limited.

Sometimes it is difficult and threatening to be loved. Are you ready for a change? Are you interested in improving your life? Think about how to let someone love you more, how to let someone into your life?

5 Steps to Getting the Love You Want:

Tell your friends what you want.
Listen to others with sincerity and calm.
Give voice to what you want to do!
Speak about how you feel.
Share yourself more: thoughts, feelings, fears and hopes.

Make changes; try these five steps. Read my book, “Lessons in Love.” Do something different; ask for what you want. Be more of who you are. Stand up for yourself, but don’t be a bully. Practice kindness and love, ask for this in return. Practice the norm of reciprocity: Be comfortable receiving, and give back something of equal or greater value. Offer your love, your kindness, your hope… Do this again and again. Results will come with practice. You will get what you want, and love will grow.

Expectations Create our Life

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Jun 272009

Expectations create reality. What do you expect, and how often do you expect it? Pay attention to how you expect your life to unfold… on a daily basis. Do an inventory: How do you expect your day or week to go?

You have control over your expectations. Spend a few minutes each day asking yourself what you expect? Quietly observe your expectations without judgment. Do they represent what you want to receive from life? If not, gently and slowly revise your expectations to be what you want. Visualize and empathize what you desire from life: feel it and see it.

Spend time with your good dreams. Decide what you must do? What actions are required to get what you want, to be who are are? Yearn toward your desire every day. If your desire is true, it will come to be your life.

Master your expectations, and you will have mastered life.

Practice Loving Yourself.

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May 172009

As strange as it may sound, practicing love works! First, practice loving yourself. It is simple: Just tell yourself, in a conversation, that you love yourself. Begin with your body. Your body creates all your feelings and thoughts, so take control and train your body to be in love, feel love and act with kindness.

Begin by telling your feet, yes your feet, that you love them. Say “Feet, I love you so much. Thank you for being my feet, and walking and working for me. I love you.”

Before you laugh, try it! It works. And it works because it is scientific, physiological and neurological: We all have the ability to create and generate love and good feelings at will. It is a basic human ability. But we often wait for love and good events to happen by chance, and there is little chance of that.

Love and good events do not happen by chance. When we leave happiness to chance, not much happens. We then may start to believe that we live in a cruel world where there is no love or opportunity for success… But this is so wrong!

It is we who are responsible for creating love and good events in our lives… We are the creators. When we wait for someone else to create for us what we want… It’s a long and futile wait.

So begin by telling your body, yourself, that you love it, that you love you. Go to all parts of your body and tell your parts that you love them. They will respond! Try it.

Thank your lungs for breathing for you; tell your lungs that you love them. Thank your heart for beating. There will be a physiological response in your brain and body. A thought is a physical and measurable action in your brain and body. Love is a thought and feeling that you create and control.

When you make a decisive action of thought, when you voice love to yourself: there is a physical response in your brain and body… a good response of good thought and great feeling.

All thoughts are physical realities in your body that affect how you feel. One thought leads to another; many thoughts lead to feelings. And feelings become habit. Create your own habit of thought and feeling; do it with love! You have the choice; you are in control. Create what you need; create what you want. Do it again and again, until it becomes habit.

How to Build Love into Your Life

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Mar 102009

The effort to love without condition… builds the soul into the earth.

What Is Unconditional Love?

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Mar 102009

Unconditional love means we choose to love regardless of the conditions of our life.
Unconditional love means we chose to love regardless of how we feel and what we think.
Unconditional love means regardless of what other people are doing, we run the force of love through our veins and head.
Regardless of anything else in the world, we love. This is unconditional love.